today's lunch / dinner - 27/05/2010

hey guys (and gurls) this is what i cooked for today.its mutton curry (kari kambing) and chicken fry (ayam goreng).very simple dish but not that simple to make since it took nearly an hour just to cook the mutton (i was in a rush,so it was too long for me!!)actually it's lamb not mutton but still call it mutton,very used to it.

in london its not possible to get any fresh meat,including fish.all is frozen so its fresh from freezer actually :-p its been quite some time since we didnt had any meat either mutton,beef or chicken.and this is really a big issue since there's no possibilities to get fresh vege's or fish here on a daily basis.

we used to stock up on chicken and meat so that can use whenever we want to.but the vege's and fish,very very rare :-( not that we cant get it,but not daily.just stock it up in fridge and use it later on.not like my homecountry (malaysia),we can just drop by to the market at anytime if we wanna get any fresh groceries.get back home and cook it on the spot :-) ....i missed those wet markets!!!!

anyway,we really need to reduce the consuming of meats and change to more vege's (sounds very nice,but hard to apply!!!!)and i'm already half way thru this challenge :-) we managed to eat meat only once a week,not like previously,used to cook daily!!!trying very hard to cook a balanced meal for my lovely family :-)

Men doing the housework reduces divorce risk: study

Divorce rates are lower in families where husbands help out with the housework, shopping and childcare, according to a study of 3,500 British couples published Tuesday.

Couples where men do housework are less likely to divorce .The research by the London School of Economics (LSE), entitled "Men's Unpaid Work and Divorce", found that the more husbands helped out, the lower the incidence of divorce.

The study said its conclusions blew open the theory running since the 1960s that marriages were most stable when men focused on paid work and women were responsible for housework.

"The lowest-risk combination is one in which the mother does not work and the father engages in the highest level of housework and childcare," the study found.

Researcher Wendy Sigle-Rushton said economists have spent much time examining and trying to explain the link between women going to work and divorce rates.

"However, in doing so, they have paid very little attention to the behaviour of men. This research... suggests that fathers' contribution to unpaid work at home stabilises marriage regardless of mothers' employment status," she said.

The study analysed married couples who had their first child in 1970, a time when most mothers of young children stayed at home.

"The results suggest that the risk of divorce among working mothers, while greater, is substantially reduced when fathers contribute more to housework and childcare," she said.

Birthday (16th of May)

i really didnt expect any gifts for my birthday (since i get married that means for the past 4 years).my husband's only reason not to get me any present bcoz that we r muslims and can not celebrate birthdays :-/ well,eventhough that's true,but i'm really not sure what is the real explaination for this kind of celebration.this is including valentine's day,since this is other religion's practice.so if we do celebrate that clearly shows that we r following their path.in quran,the celebration that we should celebrate (as far as i'm concern) is eidul fitr and eidul adha.there's no such birthday or valentine's day stated in al-quranul karim....

well,this must be hard to accept for most of the muslims,but its the truth.there's no birthday or death day in our religion(as 1 of my relative said).but still got some research to be done regarding this matter since some people said if we celebrate just to make other's happy and didnt follow the other religion's way of celebration,its fine.but,i dont know....

but,for my biggest surprise,my husband get me a box of chocs and a bouquet on my birthday:-) its a very,very BIG surprise for me.never expected this and never ever imagined that he'll get those presents for me....he told me that since i've been always asking for a bouquet,he simply get it for me,nothng to do with the birthday.sooooo sweet huh :-D i'll always be loving u darling,no matter what happens.i promise!!

anyway,the question is still open.can or can not we celebrate the birthdays??and what is the exact explaination????a big question mark on this....

Dinner - 25/05/2010

This is what i've cooked for today's dinner:Dhall curry (sambhar@kari dal) and Kingfish gravy (ikan tenggiri masak sambal).it took me more or else 1 1/2 hours to finish up the cooking for both of this meal.i dont think that i need to post the recipe since its just a basic daily cooking for a common housewife like me;-) so i'll post some other recipe that is much more interesting and complicated.maybe some time later.especially if i tried something new (hope it'll be as it should!!)

Assalamualaikum / Hi

Hi everyone....
its my first post.actually started just to see what is a BLOG really means :-) my sisters :hathi,nore & naz all got this what u call as a BLOG.so i became really curious what's really in it.this dragged me into creating my own blog (just to learn more about it).hope it'll last longer than what i expect.i really dont know what else to say.....